The act of showing dominance over a physical partner, either during sex or outside of the bedroom.
If you ever felt insecure about this particular subject, then no worries, we all did. I will tell you a little bit of my personal experience from the basics BDSM.
I want to start by saying that BDSM is actually not that weird as many of you might think it is. Not everything resume to pain or freaky mean stuff. Of course, those are a certain type of scenarios. This is actually the interesting fact, that you can come up with infinite ideas.
BDSM stands for: Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission and Masochism. Of course, you don’t have to practice all of them in order to say that you practice BDSM.
If you do consider yourself a vanilla person you can maybe think of some moments when you enjoyed getting your hair pulled back. Maybe a spank on the ass or just the moment someone is shoving you up against the mirror or the wall. Taking charge or giving orders and be in charge.
Did you ever put on a costume or maybe just some sexy lingerie or tied someone’s hands with a silk rope or covered their eyes? Well guess what, this is actually a part of BDSM as well, even if you weren’t actually aware of this.
There are 4 types of Dominants that I have also practiced.
The first one is called “TOP“. It refers to the one person who is doing everything, from tying to giving orders. This person is the one in charge.
The second one is “DOM” (male) or “DOMME” (female). This particular role resumes to the idea that you don’t take orders from anyone. It requires good skills of psychological and physical manipulation.
Third one is “MASTER” or “MISTRESS“. And it is a very spiritual structured relationship, since the person in charge holds the “ownership” rights to their slave’s body.
The last one is “DADDY” or “MOOMY“. It requires the person in charge to take care and consider the needs of their inner child. Usually, the men I’ve meet wanted to be in full control, wanting to take care of my emotions. The women I’ve met wanted to spoil, protect or punish me for my behavior.
