Bondage Play – What and how to do it

One of the most common reason why someone would like to engage in this type of activity is the fact that it can be an amazing foreplay or simply because they want to feel weak and be dominated by the other partner. It’s a great practice for people who are bored of their usual sexual life, or that just want to experiment something new. Because being vulnerable to any sexual act can sometimes be relieving.

First, and the most important thing, is to come up with a set of rules for your partner since we can assume that everything is consensual and safe, since this type of practice can give to most of the people the ultimate feeling of power and control, or the exact same opposite, helplessness. It is very important to understand and accept the limits of your partner, as well as their fears.
It is very important to create a safe word just in case your partner gets scared or tired and wants this to be over, so bring a pair of scissors too. You can always do your research online and collect as many information as you need from people who have already experienced it.

In order to tie up your partner you can always use rope, silk rope, handcuffs, cables, cling film or duct tape and you can tie your partner to the bed. You can also just try breast bondage, mummification or penis bondage.

The best thing about bondage play is that anyone can experiment it in a totally different way and you don’t have to be a kinky person or a fetish one in order to be good at it. This is a teachable art and you can master a few knots after some time, so don’t worry about it. Just keep in mind that there is a large variety of bondage and also different use for it. Also, don’t forget to be careful because it can be dangerous.
Hot tip: Try to experiment as many positions as you both can because what can work for you might not feel good for your partner.

Bondage is actually a part of BDSM so you can always dress up the way you want. Use latex, leather or Pvc if you are the one in charge, especially since this can be a very erotic foreplay. Remember that even “vanilla” people can transform themselves into experts.
If you still feel a little insecure about it you can try and go to some BDSM events which will provide you with some nice workshops where you can actually learn how to tie up your partner the right way under the supervision of a trainer.

When the whole scenario is done it should always be with the after care. This is the moment where the partners can sit down and get back to the comfortable and secure zone. Bondage play should always end up in a safe “space” where the both of you can comfort each other, clean together or just simply talk about things that were good or bad.